As hard Achieve Orgasm

The difficulty to achieve orgasm experienced by women, not only caused by a couple who do not "smart". It may be that this is derived from women's own self.

To be sure, try to be honest with yourself while reading check the following list:

Resignation to the couple

According to sex expert who wrote You Can Be Your Own Sex Therapist, Carole Altman, Ph.D., achieving orgasm is not only determined by paired activity, but also you. Men are more often want to perform intercourse, but women require at least 20 minutes of foreplay before intercourse.

Solution: Do not be afraid to tell your partner that you need to prepare yourself to have intercourse, and you need a longer stimulation to increase arousal.

The mind is not focused

The desire to be perfect is one of the mistakes that it makes women do not achieve pleasure during lovemaking. Sexolog Gloria G. Brame, PhD says that the brain is a vital part to feel the sensation of sex and release substances that trigger a sense of satisfaction.

The thoughts that are not major things, like; "Does this position make me thinner?" or "Is he aware of cellulite on the thighs?" Making women's minds are distracted and lose enjoyment of sexual activity.

Solution: Pause before all thoughts that are not associated with sexual activity. Concentrate on aktvitas being carried out, including the body's reaction. You can also do yoga breathing, which is equated with a pair of respiratory rhythm.

Expect the couple to read minds

You are stunned when he was doing something that does not make you uncomfortable, but did not tell the couple. Actually, he does not think like women and they can not read your mind.

Solution: Say that what he wanted to do for you. This method allows you and your partner achieve satisfaction.

Criticize

Though not like the things that made your partner, you should express it in a nice way. These conditions make the couple feel comfortable, even have to do something as you wish.

Solution: criticized not mean denounced. You could be telling criticism subtle way.

Too often change positions

You wanted to practice some styles learned from a book, so you many times asking him to change positions to follow the instructions. Gloria again emphasize the key to get satisfaction is to develop a constant rhythm until you reach the climax. Style changes that often it breaks down the rhythm and mood.

Solution: Concentrate first on a common style until you reach the enjoyment. Trying acrobatic styles do not necessarily lead to satisfaction of sex.